Description of Show

Porn, prevention, and propositions – OH MY!  Today Sparky and Daddy Tony talk with their special guest Sister Roma from the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence all about being a sister, the works that they have done in the past and currently, and Prop. 60 in California, and the reasons why it would be disastrous for both the porn industry and safety across the board!

Show Notes

In the News

• Prop 60 – Some of the Facts
• Kink.com fine – update and appeal
• Why Michael Weinstein is a walking piece of crap…
  •  AHF hates Kink.com – jelly much?

Topics

• Sisters are doin’ it for themselves!  Oh, and the community.
• #MyNameIs – Facebook and identities
• Prop 60 – The hidden possibilities behind the language
• Porn and prevention – how they go hand in hand

About Our Guest

January 2017 will mark Roma’s 30th year as one of the most active and widely recognized Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, dedicating more than half her life to community service, activism and fundraising. Roma can be found hosting events from coast to coast and around the globe. Check her out online on YouTube and all social media platforms @SisterRoma.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Long Worm – Square Peg – $139.95.

The Puppies know you sometimes like it a little rough, don’t you? Yeah you do! The puppies jump into a discussion about giving permission to your play partner for a the ultimate in consensual non-consensual play; kidnap scenes. How do you do these kinds of scenes? What are the challenges? Are there ways to make a kidnap scene work that isn’t going to get you landed in jail?

Of course, we are talking all about the fantasy of kidnap scenes, with consensual adults choosing this type of play.

Show Notes

Topics

• Services that provide kidnap type scenes
  • Extreme Kidnapping
  • Jail Training Center – AKA the Academy
• Daddy Tony & Sparky’s experiences with doing this type of play
• Mikey wants to be kidnapped!
• Fantasy vs Reality

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Inflatable Gag Tube with Head Strap.

Today we explore reputation in the kink community, sorting the gossip from the fact, building good standing yourself and ways that it impacts our thoughts and feelings. We discuss how do you treat people’s information, stories and facts shared with you.

Show Notes

In the News

• http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/gold-toilet-guggenheim-museum_us_57db8482e4b08cb14094df3a?section=us_weird-news
• http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/cdc-salmonella-live-poultry-study-kissing-chickens_us_57da38ece4b08cb14093da83?section=us_weird-news
• http://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2016/09/russia-bans-pornhub-youporn-tells-citizens-to-meet-someone-in-real-life/
• http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/poop-astrology_us_57d984dbe4b09d7a6880f688?section=us_weird-news

Topics

• Trump… this time for your feet
• What’s the difference between reputation and style conflicts
• How to suss out someone’s reputation
• What to share and how to share it
• Fact checking
• Things and people change

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Japanese Clover Nipple Clamps

Nothing more to say today other than this episode is all about the aftermath.

Hold on to your butts!

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Shoulder to Wrist Restraints.

The Puppies are joined by the very fun and adorable Martini from Chicago, and they launch into a big discussion about Foreskin Restoration. Martini has talked with Drew over time about the subject. And one of the fun ways we explore it is because Mikey hasn’t really thought much about restoring of foreskins on guys, so we are exploring the subject from the eyes of a newbie!

This is a fun way to jump into this grown fascination so many guys are picking up!

Show Notes

Topics

• We play a game of Fortunately/Unfortunately, you won’t believe this one
• Foreskin Restoration
  • Why do men do this?
  • What was Martini’s experience with it and why he started it
  • Why is it so prevalent to be cut, especially in the USA
  • The scent of a dick! YUM!
• How restoration works
  • Is it even possible?
  • Is it painful to do?
  • Success stories?
  • Devices that are available
• The movements to stop circumcision

Show Links

• Circumcision related groups:
  • The National Organization of Restoring Men
  • Intact America
  • Circumcision Resource Center
  • Forgen – Foreskin Regenerative Medicine
  • Reddit – /r/foreskin_restoration
  • Foreskin Restoration group on Facebook
• Reference materials on restoring:
  • Wikipedia
  • Restoring for Men – Beginners Guide
  • Measuring your Foreskin
  • Upcoming Documentary on Circumcision
• Restoring Devices
  • Some 3D printable foreskin restoration devices
    • Drew’s 3D printed Tugger Design
    • Drew’s Still in Progress – Elastic Tugger
    • Another good dual-tension design
  • Some Professional foreskin restoration devices
    • DTR – Dual Tension Restorer
    • TLC – Tugger

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Cone of Shame.

Hey all, this is actually a rebroadcast of the first episode we had with Dan Savage. You see recently both Daddy Tony & Sparky work on the Savage Lovecast to help answer some kink related questions! You can find that episode at: http://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/527

We thought we would repost the episode when he was one with us way back when and hope you don’t notice the difference in the audio quality (I still hate those old mics, grrrrr).

And we will be back soon with some great episode!

When we asked Dan Savage  to join us on the show, we were floored when he said yes! He joined us for our regular Friday night recording to do a 2 hour show. We talked to him about how he first got started with his column as well as his new book! (Find Dan’s Book, American Savage, on Amazon)

His book talks about Faith, Sex, Love and Politics, so we came up questions about each one of those topics to pose to Dan. And in Part 2 we will have some questions from listeners who wanted to ask Dan some advice questions. We also get a chance to talk to him about the It Gets Better Project.

We also mention on the show Tynan Fox’s current effort to open an inclusive coffee shop using a kickstarter, you can find out more about it at: http://www.tynanfox.com/2013/08/-latte.html.

Show Notes

 In the News

• Murder victim suffocated with cling film
• Pat Robertson says gays have special cutting rings
• Stan Solomon wishes Dan Savage had a fire hydrant
• Buttwater. No seriously…, Buttwater.

About Our Guest

Dan Savage is a sex advice columnist, activist, author, and podcaster from Seattle. Listen to his podcast The Savage Lovecast and read his writing on The Stranger at The Savage Love and SLOG.

Description of Show

Don’t be silly, wrap your willy! Today’s show is all about condoms! We talk about how condoms are received by the community, how they impact play and what we can do to improve our safe sex practices.

Show Notes

In the News

• Why the BDSM and porn community loves the Nintendo Switch
• Man Suspected Of Having Sex With A Van
• Here’s Everything We Know For Sure About Millennials And Sex
• Millennial ‘Hookup Culture’ Isn’t As Pervasive As We Think

Topics

• Growing up in a condom
• Who’s bare? Why?

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Heavy Duty Sleeveless Tee – $129.95.

Long time friend of the show suggested that we talk with a friend of his, Tod from Tykables. If you are not familiar with Tykables, you should go to their website: https://tykables.com/

They have a wide range of items for ABDL’s out there, such as diapers, onsies, jeans, and much more. Tod is a great guy that we really enjoyed getting to know, and if you are a friend of any ABDL you are going to find great gifts here. Our favorite are the black and yellow diapers, they are pretty damn hot! !

Show Notes

News Links

• http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/shaving-pubic-hairs-related-stis-study-article-1.2900858
• http://reason.com/blog/2016/12/09/leftist-students-shouted-fck-you-bitch-a

Topics

• Listener Letter #1 – Past attendee to a podcast has a question about chastity
• Listener Letter #2 – Past guest gives some info about infection rates and the relation to PREP
• ABDLs and their growth in the community
• Crossover with other fetishes and kinks

About Our Guests

We at Tykables agree that we must all grow old, but we maintain that growing up is optional. We bring to market items from our and your childhood in adult sizes. Starting with where it all began, diapers.

We are an adult baby owned company that strives to bring the best adult baby diapers and adult baby products to the market.  We are always thinking of new products that will better suit the adult baby and diaper lover ABDL market.  Our products are top quality and sold at affordable prices. We ship our products in discreet packaging via the most economical, yet fastest way possible.

We incorporated on February 14, 2014.  September 2014 our first product, the Waddler went on sale at Folsom Street Fair. We were the first and still only ABDL company to attend Folsom Street Fair.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Blackout Gas Mask.

With so much in the news lately about consent, we thought we would tackle this often misunderstood and very touchy subject!

Show Notes

News Links

• http://metro.co.uk/2015/10/27/men-are-taking-photos-of-their-balls-in-front-of-beautiful-landscapes-5465223/
• http://www.standard.co.uk/goingout/attractions/a-semen-cooking-class-is-set-for-london-a3374146.html
• http://www.iflscience.com/plants-and-animals/10000-endangered-scrotum-frogs-have-died-near-lake-titicaca/
• http://en.rocketnews24.com/2016/11/02/religious-chocolate-nipples-ranging-from-young-girls-to-mature-ladies-launched-in-japan/

Topics

• What is consent
• How do you get it
• When are you not getting
• How much do kinksters thing about consent
• Playing with the blurred lines

About Our Guests

It is just Sparky & DFT this time.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Puppy Hood Custom Colors.

Holy shit, somehow we made it to 200 of these damn things! We hope you are as excited as we are that we hit this milestone (though in truth you probably aren’t, but it is still cool)!

For this episode we start off with presenting a little award to a friend of the show. We did this because she has been going through a lot, and through it all she still supports the community, her family, and our show. So right at the beginning we present this award to Mistress Pixie Fyre (on previously in Episode 165 Mistress Fyre and Episode 190 Cum Unity). And here is a pic of the award we presented to her:

Then it was time to get the show proper, and we did something completely different this time. You are just going to have to have a listen to believe it!

Here is to another 200 episodes!

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Puppy Hood Custom Colors.

Description of Show

Our guest, boy Patrick, talks to us about bootblacking and how it relates both to his personal sexuality and to the broader community. boy Patrick also discusses his other career as a phone sex operator and Daddy Tony roleplays as a “typical” client. Stay tuned for the second part for the next episode where we talk about age and kink.

Show Notes

In the News

• Leftist Students Shout at Boys Don’t Cry Director
• Shaving Pubic Hair linked to STI’s

About Our Guest

boy Patrick is a queer, switch femme, otter. A native of Dallas, he has a huge passion for leather and fetish wear care. Patrick is all about education and empowerment when it comes to kink, both in and out of the dungeon. Through education and experience we are able to expand our abilities to give and receive pleasure.

Patrick is one of the bootblacks at the Dallas Eagle. He is also the current International Community Bootblack. He thrives off of presence and sharing energy with anyone who will engage with him, on or off the stand. Patrick believes that through this presence we can build bridges between communities, develop a better understand of our history and present, and most importantly connect with one another on a deeper level.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Fetters Sit Sling 

Description of Show

For this episode we continue the discussion with Patrick about is side job doing phone sex work, and move on to some discussion about the intersection of age and kink culture. This is going to be a highly fun episode that you are not going to want to miss!

About Our Guest

boy Patrick is a queer, switch femme, otter. A native of Dallas, he has a huge passion for leather and fetish wear care. Patrick is all about education and empowerment when it comes to kink, both in and out of the dungeon. Through education and experience we are able to expand our abilities to give and receive pleasure.

Patrick is one of the bootblacks at the Dallas Eagle. He is also the current International Community Bootblack. He thrives off of presence and sharing energy with anyone who will engage with him, on or off the stand. Patrick believes that through this presence we can build bridges between communities, develop a better understand of our history and present, and most importantly connect with one another on a deeper level.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Fetters Sit Sling 

Description of Show

Time to open up the ole (e)mail bag! Sparky and Daddy Tony read listener messages and discuss everything from leaving quickly after sex to pansexuality.

Show Notes

• Now What? Yes, Trump fatigue has set in a bit. Fight that feeling by supporting the organizations that support us. This week, we feature Planned Parenthood.It isn’t just for women! Donate or see how you can take action in support of Planned Parenthood.
• Leaving for Las Vegas (and other places.) Kink.com is leaving San Francisco.
• Half-Night Stands: Maybe the rest of the world is finally catching up with gay men.
• Older kinksters are (still) awesome. Sparky and Daddy Tony read a listener message thanking us for Episode 161 – Into Older? It Depends and talk about good times with older gentlemen in younger days.
• Barebacking love from a latex allergy? Our second listener message wonders if they knew about their latex allergy sooner and started using polyurethane condoms, then maybe they would not have been so much into barebacking.
• Positive Depictions of Kink in Film. A British listener lets us know that one example of a kink-positive scene in a film would be a Spanish film called Bear Cub.
• Our Listeners…Their Cocks. We love appreciative listeners…and their dick pics.
• A Non-Binary Queer Male Reaches Out. This listener thanks us for Episode
  57 – Leland and laments the lack of resources for those of pansexual orientation online and looks for a sense of community.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Stump n’ Dump.

Description of Show

We are talking with one of our listeners, MaskdCat, about the challenges organizing events for kink groups.

Show Notes

• Douche Pickle of the Week: Caitlyn Jenner…and this:

• Our guest, MaskdCat, talks about spandex, rubber, and how he even gets into different headspaces with the different materials.
• Professional wrestling: a gateway drug to kink?
• Talking about Toronto and the scene there, notably TORN – Toronto Ontario Rubbermen Network
• How can organizations manage fundraising without being seen as asking folks too often for money? Sparky makes the point that clearly communicating the reason why funds are being raised is crucial.
• Organizational drama: What are the issues that affect all organizations?
  • Some give their time too freely and others don’t at all.
  • Knowing the motivations of different members can be helpful, but it’s not a question to ask in a public meeting setting
  • To avoid the risk of burnout, Sparky talks about the importance of clearly-written by-laws that lay out the responsibilities of each officer of the organization as well as clearly stating the purpose of the group.
  • Working smarter and not harder: Invest time in reducing repetitive tasks.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Holy Trainer Chastity Cock Cage.

About our Guest

MaskdCat is a luchador kitty with fetishes for spandex, rubber, and many other types of hoods and gear. It all started with a wrestling mask at a young age, and things escalated from there.

Currently residing in the Toronto area, he is also one of the organizers for the Toronto Rubbermen, a social group who promote an inclusive space for rubbermen to socialize and celebrate life in rubber.

He can be found on Twitter under the @MaskdCat handle, and he also has a tumblr with plenty of gear smut at maskdcat.tumblr.com

Description of Show

Our guest on the show is Preston ‘Wexx’ So, Mr. International Rubber 2017.

Show Notes

• In the News: A politician running for Arizona governor is actually honest…about his sex life.
• Preston vs Bill O’Reilly:
• MIR – Preston talks about the night he assumed his title…and a few of the more interesting parts of the contest…and it involved penetration.
• First Asian international title-holder. Preston talks about race and kink and their interactions.
• Unfortunately, Trump’s election reverberations even affect major kink events. Preston tells us about a fellow attendee of a major leather event who had pushed him out of an elevator and invoked Trump’s election for the reason why.
• Preston speaks of those who are in the Asian community and their views of kink. In comparison, he talks about Margaret Cho and how even she is looked upon negatively in the Korean community due to her open sexuality.
• Boston Pride and Preston: Preston gets to share his kink, while he is openly gay, with his co-workers.
• Race itself being fetishized. Preston talks about his experiences of that happening…and how it seems to be a uniquely American thing.
• Rubberize the World! Preston wants to expose the world to rubber and share the love of rubber with countries around the world…and to promote enthusiasts everywhere to be open about their love of rubber.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Stainless Steel Nut Tugger

About our Guest

*Preston “wexx” So* is Mr. International Rubber 20 (2017) and Mr. New
England Rubber 2016. The first international fetish titleholder of Asian
heritage, he is honored to bring the MIR title back to New England and
the New England Rubber Men. Previously, Preston was the resident
materials expert at Harvard College Munch, the BDSM student organization
at his alma mater, where he educated other members about leather,
rubber, spandex, and similar fetishes at a time when the group was
vilified by Bill O’Reilly on Fox News as a university-funded “sex club.”

Proud to practice his passion by wearing latex out regularly, Preston
enjoys mentoring new rubberists regardless of their gender or sexuality,
especially through latex fetishism workshops at DV8/Purple Passion and
Cleveland Leather Annual Weekend (CLAW). As an international
titleholder, he has appeared on Vice.com and Watt’s the Safeword to
promote and foster latex fetishism. Preston’s mission as Mr.
International Rubber 20 is to rubberize the world — to bring the latex
fetish to places further afield and especially to unawakened rubberists.

Description of Show

Our guest on the show is Sister Domine Trix, AKA Russ, of the Abbey of St. Joan (Seattle chapter) of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence.

Show Notes

• What now? We live in stressful times, so be sure to get away from the news headlines and go for a walk, relax, get a blow job! Keep informed, but don’t get too obsessed with it all.
• In the News: Gasp! Gaydar isn’t real, according to science.
• Russ and Daddy Tony talk about the Sisters and the crossover between Sisterhood and kink. Some arrived in kink via Sisterhood and vice versa.
• Russ is quite the tatted-out Sister…with over 250 hours of ink work on his body. He discusses how tattoos have helped him to embrace his own body image of parts of his body that initially he was not as proud of.
• How do we choose what tattoos go on our body…and what are our personal boundaries on what should not go on our bodies?
• Speaking of personal boundaries…Russ asks why many people who see others with tattoos often will lift up the tattoo owners’ clothing (without asking!) when they see parts of tattoos obscured by clothing.
• Tattoos in unusual or very visible locations (face, hands) and is it always wise to have those when you are very young?
• Those who “look/seem like they would not have tattoos” who do. Breaking stereotypes is healthy…and can be very erotic!
• Russ is also is a belly dancer instructor…actually one of the first certified male belly dance instructors.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Prestige ElectraLoops

About our Guest

Russ is many things. He is a Sister of Perpetual Indulgence, a Tribal Belly Dancer/Teacher, a burlesque dancer, an Emcee, and a Project Manager in the Power Industry. He keeps himself busy by lifting heavy things and putting them back down and also by getting tattooed.

Description of Show

Today we dedicate the show to a wide variety of news articles and listener feedback!

Show Notes

• What now? Know who your congressional representatives are…and get involved in these hot congressional races: California 10, California 25, California 49, Colorado 6, Florida 26, Kansas 3, Minnesota 2, New York 19, Pennsylvania 8, Texas 23, Virginia 10
• In the News
• A new, popular video game features gay sex scenes
• Is putting your last name on a license plate a sexist comment? What if your last name is Grabher?
• Make America Great Again: A Great Anal Tattoo
• The Creator Of Gay Torture Device: The Ex-Gay Movement…Dies
• Tim Allen: Target of (liberal) discrimination
• Listener Mail: What happened to boys on the table?
• Label vs Label: Kink, Queer…keep ’em separated? This Huffington Post article posted in their queer section fueled this tweet to them.
• Listener Mail #2: A bi girl writes in and talks about polyamory, erotica, and maybe Sparky and Daddy Tony should try to read some on the show!
• Listener Mail #3: Overly verbal sexual partners: Good or Bad? Discuss…
• Listener Mail #4: Accents and labia…two things not exactly mastered by Sparky

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Wireless Vibrating Dildo Suction Cup: Available in 7″ base for $81.95 and 8″ base for $87.95.

About Our Guest

Description of Show

When we are out there in the world of kink we run into people that are not going to be into us. Or people who are into us that we are not into. And then we have a choice.

Do we ignore them? Do they ignore us? Do we just ghost away and pretend it never happened?

Or are we honest with them and say we just aren’t into them? Do we want someone to be honest with us when they are not into us?

Of course there is no one answer and it really depends on the situation, but it happens so much we need to talk about it! Come take a listen.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Wireless Vibrating Dildo Suction Cup: Available in 7″ base for $81.95 and 8″ base for $87.95.

Description of Show

Our fantasies…ourselves. This week we talk about fantasies and the different ways they manifest themselves…both in the real world and in our minds.

 Show Notes

• What Now? Voting. Be registered. Don’t wait until right before an election. Register now at vote.org.
• In the News: When BDSM and a popular, open-source software application collide: Quiet Kinkster Kicked Out of Drupal.
• Fantasies. Daddy Tony is asked about his, and if they are actively integrated in his life.
• Sparky relates how his fantasy boundaries work, which are mainly ones that are in the realm of the possible or achievable.
• Limits to fantasy actualization:
  • Political correctness involving race or age
  • Dropping out of careers for 24/7/365 fantasy
  • Those that cause life-altering physical harm to themselves or others
• Sparky talks about how his fantasies are more situational and are based on real people he sees from day-to-day.
• Dark fantasies. Physical harm or violence. Some fantasy actualization could actually cause emotional harm to themselves over concern and seeing the real reactions of the other participants.
• Hey listeners, we want to hear about your fantasies. Are they possible? Have you ever regretted making a fantasy come true? Tell us about it at info@nosafeword.com.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Deluxe Leather Straitjacket.

Description of Show

The best play scenes involve planning, but too much can ruin spontaneity. In this episode of Ungagged, the puppies talk about how that balance can be achieved without thinking you are in a business meeting while you play.

Show Notes

• In the News
  • It seems the new Nintendo Switch Joy-Con has a syncing issue…if it is in your butt.
  • This vibrator’s camera seems to think you want others to watch via a horribly easy-to-hack WiFi network it creates.
  • What you should not do if you are a guy that gets caught sucking cock by his wife: Wife Dies After Nude Beach Blow-Job-Jet-Ski Battle.
  • Who knew that Kung Fu could give you balls of steel? Follow this guy’s example if you have these sort of goals.
  • Maybe this detective with an exhibitionist streak should listen to this show’s advice on planning a scene.
  • A lady representing a charity for providing bio-dogs for veterans gets a surprise when she goes to a furry convention…and didn’t know that furries weren’t furry bio-dogs.
• Making Play Scenes Hot but Not Scripted
  • Even if it seems overkill, making a full itinerary can still be very helpful, especially for newer subs.
  • Scenes involving VR can be especially fun, but it really involves a lot of planning and setup since you really do not want to fiddle with it during the scene.
  • Having a good electro-stim scene also involves a lot of planning….namely seeing what the limits are for each participant beforehand to avoid boredom or too much pain.
  • Each participant also should plan ahead for what their bodies will be doing during the scene.
    • If you will be bottoming, then you want to be sure you are clean down there.
    • If you will be in a particular position for any length of time, then you should be sure that your body and your muscles are fit enough to stay in that position.
  • The Golden Rule does not always apply: The dom may want to put their assumptions away on what will feel good to the sub and ask a lot of questions to the sub on what feels good and what does not.
  • The Boy Scout Rule: Be prepared! Everything will not work during a scene, so have some alternatives prepared to substitute in just in case something breaks or something is not feeling good to a participant.
  • Home Field Advantage: Planning and executing a scene goes a lot easier when you are familiar with the space you are playing in. The dom in a scene playing at home will be better prepared for the unexpected since they know where everything is.
  • If you are planning a scene in a place that is not the home of a participant, then pack well! Have everything you need in your “bag of tricks” and know where everything is in your bag for quick access.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Leather Head Cushion.